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Sarcasm is another example of displaying misleading emotions. Sarcasm is defined as a cutting, often ironic, remark intended to wound, or a form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.

Sarcasm is most often thought of as being in the voice; an oddly placed inflection for emphasis on an unusual part of the statement. The statement is usually contemptuous and biting toward something like an individual person, politics or a financial situation. Though it shows in the voice it also shows in body language, in particular the face.

The face often reflects an emotion on the disgusted section on the wheel; contemptuous, disdain and disbelief are just a few possibilities. What is misleading about sarcasm is it often mimics the emotion that’s being made fun of. If someone is talking about a really mean person, they might say with a smile on their face, “I really love being around that person.” This is not a sincere happy smile. If you look closely you will probably not see wrinkles on the side of the eyes, which are a part of the face when someone is happy. The context of the rest of the conversation can also help in deciphering whether someone is using sarcasm. For example, if someone is saying mean things about a person and then suddenly gives him a complement, it may be sarcasm.

What she says:

"Nice job dropping the ball during practice today!"

What she actually means:

She is not complimenting you on your skills on the softball field. She is actually saying that she thinks you did a bad job and is trying to make you feel bad about it too.

A good response to this type of sarcasm would be to admit you need a little practice catching the ball. Keep it lighthearted, and don't get angry.

What he says:

"I'm glad you're just standing there. Don't feel like you have to help or anything..."

What he actually means:

He would like for you to help him with whatever he is doing. Your best bet would be to respond "I'm happy to help. What would you like me to do?", or just step in and give him a hand.